Цитат от книгата "The Rational Male":
I have a good friend, John, who’s just this side of 37. I love the guy, but John’s not much to look at. At around 30 he essentially gave up on himself.
He got married far too young on the business end of a do-the-right-thing ‘accidental’ pregnancy, and from a personal standpoint that was the end of his window of opportunity to explore any other options he may have had.
His wife let herself go just after the second pregnancy, ballooned into a beach ball, and he followed suit.
In actuality it wouldn’t take much for him to get back on top of his game, but he has no desire to. Now, after detailing John’s situation you might think he’d be the last candidate to participate in anything resembling a manipulation of dread in a relationship, and you’d be right, but he, and guys like him are often the unwitting participants in their wives’ or girlfriend’s own dread-games.
Although John isn’t going to spontaneously attract women with either his looks or due to
his complete obliviousness to Game, he is an exceptional provider for his family.
He regularly busts his ass as a programmer and is the sole breadwinner of the family –
singlehandedly funding his wife’s schooling.
In addition he’s a very attentive father, husband and is somewhat of a handyman around the house. In spite of all this his wife tends to be a bit of a shrew, browbeating him on a regular
basis, which has been passed onto the personalities of his teenage daughters who
engage in the same heavy handedness their mother does.
Yet for all the passive-aggressive derision, John’s wife is easily one of the most possessive women I’ve ever known.
He literally lives in a constant state of surveillance as to his whereabouts. She calls to verify he is where he says he is, and continually suspects him of running off to a strip club (which to my knowledge he’s never set foot inside one) or engaging in anyway with another woman.
It’s gotten to the point that it’s comical to think that she’d have any worry that he’d be snatched away by a better woman, but there it is, the dreaded competition anxiety prompting unease in an, albeit low self-esteem, woman with no realistic possibility of it ever occurring.
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